Homosexuality, To choose or not to choose?

The biggest, and to some degree, most crucial part of the homosexuality debate, is the question "is homosexuality a choice?" Hopefully I'll give some helpful insight into this confusing and controversial topic. And I know that at times in this post, people on both sides of the argument may disagree. But as far as I am concerned, this is the BEST explanation.

First of all I wish to look at this from the genetic point of view. Is it even possible for there to be a "gay gene"? My answer? No. However the opposite of "genetic" isn't "choice". But I think it is quite nearly impossible to think that an actual gay gene exists. the genetics don't work out. It would be nearly impossible for a gay gene to be passed on successfully. Since it would hinder reproduction. Now obviously this gene wouldn't effect people's sterility, so they would be physically able to produce children, they wouldn't have the desire. Planning out children would be an option. However, this possibility is something that we would only see in humans. And since techniques like sperm donors and such are somewhat recent (in terms of entire history of the human race) events, the "gay gene" would have been burned down long ago.


Another theory often proposed is "brain chemistry" being that genetic factors do influence the balance of the chemicals in the brain, and these lead to homosexual desires and actions. This is not a good explanation. Brain chemistry is highly changeable. There are NO differences between heterosexuals and homosexuals that cannot be attributed to lifestyle. That is, your lifestyle and other factors actually change your brain chemistry. So it's unlikely that homosexuality is caused by brain chemistry. Seeing as many homosexuals have tried with all they have to become heterosexual. And while I do think, in theory at least, that it is possible with therapy and etc. to change sexuality, (to some degree at least) it would be much much easier if the cause where brain chemistry (I believe).

So, What causes homosexuality? From a position of those who oppose homosexuality, you have to understand one thing. You cannot logically say that homosexuality is a choice. At least not for all people. True, homosexuality is NOT inborn, but it's not a choice either. Why would someone choose something that they have no actual desires for? Especially something that is considered wierd, unnatural, sinful by many? It doesn't make any real sense. Also when you try to fight homosexuality, that is argue against it, it makes you sound extremely ignorant to homosexuals when you tell them that it is a choice that they made.

Here's what I think, it's developmental. It has to do with many influences, especially in early years of development. The following is a highlight from a recent email conversation I had (the person I was talking with, was not homosexual):

For men, homosexual attraction is usually formed when a young boy feels rejected by his father. Upon being rejected the boy turns to his mother and/or sisters. So rather than learning how to be a male, he learns the ways of a female. Upon adolescence, when boys start becoming attracted to the unknown gender (girls), these boys are attracted to boys, because for them it is men who are the unknown gender. Once puberty hits and sexual desires begin, they direct those sexual desires toward the unknown sex--the same sex. This is not a conscious thing.



In conclusion, I think that this is the best possible answer to the question "Are homosexuals born that way?" It makes the absolute most sense from any perspective. Including religious. Christians who oppose homosexuality believe it sinful. If it homosexuals were born that way, that would mean they were made that way by God. And therefore it would be highly improbably that homosexuality would be a sin. Many Christians still have problems restricting homosexual acts to those who did not choose it. Describing it as unfair. In a coming post, I will discuss both homosexuality from a Biblical point of view, and why restricting these behaviors is not wrong, or unfair.